“Next to prayer for the loving spirit of Jesus, the one thing needed here is self-restraint. To dwell in harmony we must sometimes make sacrifice of our own feelings. We are not always right, nor can we expect always to have our own way even if right. We must study the good-feeling of others; we must seek not to irritate by communicating to them what is unpleasant. We must not indulge in the exasperating practice of fault-finding and complaining. We must bear with the weaknesses and failings of others, and put the best construction upon their acts. We cannot know all the motives by which they are actuated. We cannot see the circumstances which lead them to act as they do. It is more than probable that if we were situated precisely as they are, our course would be just the same.”

— Thomas Murphy, Duties of the Church Member to the Church (1878)